Every once in a while I’ll read a letter to an advice columnist that says something like this: “My husband/wife is a wonderful partner in every way, except he/she constantly puts me down even though I have asked him/her to stop.”
The most recent one I read involved a husband who would drive aggressively until his wife agreed to whatever demand he made. He would wait to bring up issues until they were in the car and he was in control.
His “road rage” scared her so much, she would agree to anything and now is afraid to drive anywhere with him, including to marriage counseling.
A relationship in which one person is demeaned, humiliated, put down, disgraced or physically harmed is not wonderful. It may “have its moments,” but it is not healthy.