In last month’s column we discussed the factors that influence a successful marriage. While some of them are not in our control, many are.
And one factor in our control can compensate for all the other negative factors combined. That’s premarital counseling.
Good premarital counseling/education is a sort of insurance policy against divorce and can reduce the risk of divorce by up to 30 percent.
We all encounter difficulties in our marriages. When couples take advantage of the positive energy and optimism to strengthen the marriage before it starts, they can avoid some of the negative habits and bad communication patterns that can build up later. Couples who attend premarital courses learn to communicate and solve problems better.
One of my favorite stories about premarital counseling came from a minister friend who works as a pastoral counselor. He does a lot of premarital counseling but does not usually perform weddings.