To the editor:
It is every parent’s dream to watch their child walk down the aisle to get married. As the state coordinator for Indiana PFLAG (Parents, Families, Friends & Allies of Lesbians and Gays), I felt like a proud Hoosier Mom for hundreds of couples at the Marion County clerk’s office as I watched loving couples have their dreams come true. The three days have felt like a fairy tale come true.
The line to obtain marriage licenses snaked out of the clerk’s office and down the hall. Even though many of the couples had to wait in line for hours, people were very patient. And why not?
They waited this long — some for as long as 20 years — another hour or two wouldn’t make a difference.
Those of us who take marriage for granted can learn a lot from these happy couples. They live in a state whose legislators have tried for years to deny them the ability to protect their families. They have been called names and been treated like second-class citizens. They know that if they don’t get married while they can, that privilege might be taken away from them at any minute. Yet they stood in line with dignity — just enjoying the moment.
If anyone saw what I saw at the clerk’s office with loving couples eating wedding cake, cheers and clapping after every single marriage, and moms just like me crying as they watched their child get married … finally, all their resistance, worries and fear would give way to the love and joy that was pouring out of there.
Believe me Hoosiers, you have nothing to fear. My 43-year-old marriage is still intact, and yours will be too. In fact, watching all these happy couples get married was a pleasant reminder of how lucky I am to have found my soul mate and that I had the opportunity to marry him. Indiana is going to be a better place because now ALL of our citizens are protected and can take care of themselves and their families properly. And really, isn’t that what ALL parents want for their kids?